The Best Way to Find Your Soulmate is through the people who know you.
Ask your family and friends. They know you best.
Find a rabbi or rebbetzin whom you respect. Go to them for Shabbos. Help them with some of their community-building activities and let them get to know you. Tell them what you are looking for and ask them if they know of anyone for you. Then ask for guidance about your problems and dating decisions. Listen and act on their advice.
Fall in Love with G-d
Let G-d get to know you. Of course, the One who lovingly created you knows you better than you know yourself, but in establishing a close relationship with G-d, you will come to know yourself better. When you understand yourself, it will be easier for you to recognize the marriage partner with whom you can achieve your holy purpose.
so that your priorities are clear when you are dating.
How do you come closer to G-d?
Pray, beg, cry out to the Master of the Universe to help you find your soulmate. Increasing your holiness will help you to be worthy to marry a finer partner in life who will G-d willing match your new level. Then you will not make a mistake in your choice of whom to marry. The more you try to come closer to G-d, the more you will fall in love with G-d and that will make you even more attractive than you are now.
You will glow with an inner spark that will attract your true parnter in life. You will experience and recognize more Divine Providence, amazing "coincidences" in your life that will shorten the process of finding your true soulmate.
Help another find his or her soulmate.
The sages tell us that those who pray for and help others with the same intensity that they would for themselves, often find that their own prayers are answered first.
The Two Most Important Things
To Remember When Using the Internet To Find Your soulmate:
1. Get and check references right away.
A person may be a great writer, but not necessarily truthful. Ask for references who are well-respected in your date's community such as a rabbi or rebbetzin, not just a personal friend. Call them early on in the correspondence. Have specific questions ready to ask and also ask about the person's general character. This step can be crucially important for weeding out potentially dangerous or unpleasant situations.
2. Meet in person before forming emotional attachments.
Save yourself time and heartache. It is possible to have a fabulous correspondence, and wonderful phone conversations with someone for months, only to discover that when you finally meet in person, there is no chemistry. The internet is best used to identify potential dates to meet and to keep communication going in-between visits and phone calls. Ask yourself:
Do I want a penpal or a marriage partner?