6.
Focus on the little things.
It's the little things that make a marriage
great. Intimacy is paying attention to details.
This is how to have a complete relationship
with yourself, your spouse, with G-d.
The small thing is not only the practical way to begin,
it is the most intimate, most important part of the relationship..
7.Solid relationships are built with clear communication. An architect doesn't point at an empty lot and say to the builders just
hammer something together warm and cozy. He makes a clear set
of plans with every detail clearly marked. When we marry, we are also
building a home, a House of Peace. Say what you need. Did G-d expect
us to read His mind? No! G-d gave us a full set 613 very explicit
directions to explain what He needs and wants from us.
Why should we expect any less from each other?
8.A fabulous marriage is built on trust and respect,
a shared togetherness. There is a certain settled feeling, a quiet
expectation that you will take care of each other's needs. In a relationship,
when your partner exposes his or her need and asks you to help, don't
ask why just do it! That's why you are married to each other.
Do it because you are touched and honored that they have trusted you enough to ask you to help in this intimate and vulnerable way. Love your spouse as yourself. But treat your spouse with even greater dignity.
9.Don't expect your spouse to change. When you point your
finger at someone else, three fingers are pointing back at you. Work on
yourself and learn to adapt. As a face is reflected in water, so is one
heart reflected in another. Any lack we see in others is present
somewhere in ourselves. If we fix that thing in ourselves, we will be
able to understand and forgive it in others. When one person is willing
to give 100%, this opens the heart of the other to give.
10.Everybody needs forbidden fruit! When you can't have
something, you love and desire it even more. This is the greatest secret
of an amazing Jewish marriage. For 12 days of the month, the wife is
forbidden fruit. On the night of Mikveh, she is a new bride, and her
husband is a new groom every month! Taharas Mishpacha, Family Purity
is the secret of the incredible strength and vitality of Jewish marriage and
the foundation of the Jewish family.
